Don't be a Pussy. Don't be a Bitch.

Yesterday I went through one of StepVheN's recent pieces - Emasculation of motivation - and to me it was a very interesting read.

I was thinking about this later and trying to co-relate why people who completely lack any motivation to do things often mask their apathetic and indifferent attitude in the name of being 'spiritually above' what's actually going on.

I think that's a serious issue that needs addressing. I thought about this and came up with 3 paradigms we might tend to operate in.

Paradigm 1 : Being A Pussy 

I remember Ciaran once speaking about how life is a spectrum of everything and there are quite a lot of people who try to limit their experience to only a specific portion of that spectrum, trying to live as if the rest didn't exist.... Hmm... why would anyone do that?!

The only reason I can think of right now is that they do it for the simple reason of not being brave enough.

They're in essence afraid of being hurt.

Afraid of the complexities of life and of what life might through at them.

Afraid of having their expectations go unfulfilled etc.

And in their fear they give up hope and reside in the "All is good" feel good crap mentality - "There's no way to go and there's no action that needs to be taken for all is perfect."

They live by the code - 'If you can be okay with anything that's going on then you can't get hurt."

Bull crap.

Now at some level, that code really is a good code to live by... but only if you've the right paradigm to adopt this code. (see paradigm 3)

Many people who are pathetic idle fucks use this code to justify their lack of motivation for doing something worthwhile.

That's being a pussy.

By living your life like this you sure can come across as someone who is calm on the surface but that superficial indifference has no solid foundation and roots... and by playing the role of "I am the everything's alright even if it's not guy" you happen to only give up your responsibility to take action and make a positive difference in your life and in the world around you.

Don't be such a pussy.

Life is not a bed of roses and stop acting like it is one.

Paradigm 2 : Being A Bitch

Now, on the flip side there are people for whom life isn't a bed of roses and they don't try to escape it and they clearly do suffer from it.

These are often honest people who at least try to make efforts to better their lives, if not make the world better.

These are the kind of people who try to do things but when their efforts end in failure they're severely disappointed and frustrated.

The problem with these kinds of guys is that they tend to be little bitches on the inside.

Anything good or bad that happens to them, they make too big a deal about it. That is why they're always anxious and restless at the core. They basically need to "get over themselves" and realize that the world doesn't revolve around them.

That's what "having an ego" basically means .... not in the egotistical, proud sense of the word... but rather in the sense that Tolle talks about... "being too involved in their life-situation and story"...
(I personally find such phrases to be too vague and useless especially because misunderstanding them can often lead you to be an idle pussy who foolishly doesn't take life seriously AT ALL)

Don't be such a bitch.

Realize that the world doesn't spin around you. Don't make a big deal out of things and have a little control over your emotional systems.

Paradigm 3 : Don't be a bitch. Don't be a pussy.

Now that we've established the two traps we should definitely NOT fall into, what's left behind is something really good. You get to experience the entire spectrum of life while remaining in control of your emotions.

You embrace the challenges life sets for you without any fear of what happens. You've the motivation to do stuff. You get to be passionate about things. Yet you don't get upset over tiny things that come your way. You don't stop taking action, nor do you bitch if things don't turn out the way you exactly want them to.

That's how a sane person should actually behave. Just like Zach.

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So yeah, that's what I've come up with.

Hopefully it'll become easier to ride the road once we've laid out the dangers we might encounter in it! 

Ofcourse, it's all laid out in theory here and it'll only help if it's actually put into practice.... hope we all get on it.

Still working on the Demon Theory post.

See ya next time.

Until then, stay ruthless. Cheers.